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I Left My Husband but Now He Wants Me Back, and I Don’t Know What I Want

I Left My Husband but Now He Wants Me Back, and I Don’t Know What I Want

She finally got up the courage to leave after years of trying. So why did it take leaving for him to realize he didn’t want her to go? Hi Felicity – I need a good dose of encouragement (and maybe some gentle advice). My marriage has been flat for the last few years. My husband is a nice guy (no drinking, cheating, or abuse of any kind)…but he treats me like a buddy, not a wife. After trying to work on things with date nights and special vacations to drum up the spark again for many months, I finally gave…

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Communication Breakdown: What to Do When He Doesn’t Want to Talk

Communication Breakdown: What to Do When He Doesn’t Want to Talk

Hey Felicity, I’ve got a problem that I need your help with. I consider myself to be a deep thinker and I love to talk about everything under the sun. And while I think my boyfriend is smart, he just doesn’t seem to want to talk with me about much of anything, least of all meaningful stuff. Can this work? The short answer is yes, assuming you’re both interested in making things work and are wanting similar things from the relationship. The longer answer is it’s may take some effort. I can speak from experience here, as I’ve wrestled with…

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He Says He Loves Me, but What Does that MEAN?

He Says He Loves Me, but What Does that MEAN?

Hey Felicity, I have a confession: I watched The Bachelor this season. And while I adore Ben, I was never down with him telling two women he loved them. Especially because neither women knew it was being said to the other until the end. Because I am a woman, I know that those words are powerful to hear and can play into the choices we make. Curious about your thoughts on this? Oooh, great question! I think part of why that show captivates such a wide audience is that we get to play voyeur to the dating process (albeit a…

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Finding Dating “Wins” in Awkward Places

Finding Dating “Wins” in Awkward Places

Speed dating is a somewhat modern way to meet new singles but every potential “dating” situation can be awkward or disappointing. Felicity gives a reader some advice on how to find the wins in even ho-hum circumstances. Hey Felicity – I went to a speed dating event the other night in an effort to “put myself out there”. I don’t know why I even stayed, I got there and immediately felt out of place and weirdly on display. To top it off, the men were all kind of boring and I didn’t see anyone I was immediately attracted to. There…

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My Friend is Miserable but I Can’t Stand Her Negativity. What Should I Do?

My Friend is Miserable but I Can’t Stand Her Negativity. What Should I Do?

Friendships can be just as emotionally involved as our love relationships. When a friend is draining you by constant negativity, can you repair things or do you move on to save your sanity? Hi Felicity, I need your help. My best friend’s negativity post-divorce is at an all-time high and it’s been going on for the last couple of years. I have my own problems that I’m trying to deal with and her attitude is honestly starting to push me away. It’s gotten to the point where I’ve started avoiding her phone calls. I understand she’s been going through a…

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How Long Should I Wait For Him to Pop the Question?

How Long Should I Wait For Him to Pop the Question?

Hi Felicity, I’m 42 and in a committed relationship. My boyfriend and I are both divorced. We’ve been together for almost 4 years now and he hasn’t popped the question. Ughh… I really love him, but I’m starting to feel taken advantage of or like something is wrong with me! Every birthday that comes and goes without a ring is harder to handle. When I try to bring up the conversation of marriage, he gets defensive and avoids the conversation. I’m not getting any younger. What do I do? Do I stay or do I go? It’s the million dollar…

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Is Ambition Incompatibility Undermining Your Relationship?

Is Ambition Incompatibility Undermining Your Relationship?

Can two people with drastically different levels of ambition make it as a couple? Felicity offers a reader some advice. Her answer: it’s all about what you value. Hey Felicity – I’ve got a dilemma. I am a successful woman who owns a growing business. I’ve busted some serious booty to get where I’m at and I’m proud of my accomplishments. And even though I’ve done a lot, I’ve got so much more to take on in my career. I admit, my marriage suffered a bit due to my workaholic ways. And through my divorce, I channeled all of my…

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How Long Should You Wait to Introduce Kids to a New Love Interest?

How Long Should You Wait to Introduce Kids to a New Love Interest?

Dating over the age of 35 guarantees at some point you will meet someone with kids. And whether you are a single mom or you are childless and dating a single dad, check out what Felicity says about when it’s cool to meet the kiddos. Hi Felicity, I have a question. My sister got divorced last year and has started dating again. She has two kids (under 12) and believes a relationship should develop before she introduces anyone to them. Like 6 months before a man would meet them. What has surprised her is the men she’s dated bring up meeting…

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