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Are You Unintentionally Repelling Men?

Are You Unintentionally Repelling Men?

As humans, we all crave acknowledgment, acceptance, and love. It’s a universal truth. And compliments are the simplest form of currency. Yet there are subtle differences in how women and men receive those prized words of affirmation. In fact, you might unknowingly be repelling men by doing what comes naturally to you as a woman. Warning: Broad-stroke generalizations ahead. As women, we are encouraged to be nurturing, caring, and motherly. Just look at the toys and games common to most of our childhoods – dolls, pretend kitchens, and playing house, nurse, or school. Being in tune with those around us…

As humans, we all crave acknowledgment, acceptance, and love. It’s a universal truth. And compliments are the simplest form of currency. Yet there are subtle differences in how women and men receive those prized words of affirmation.

In fact, you might unknowingly be repelling men by doing what comes naturally to you as a woman.

Warning: Broad-stroke generalizations ahead.

As women, we are encouraged to be nurturing, caring, and motherly. Just look at the toys and games common to most of our childhoods – dolls, pretend kitchens, and playing house, nurse, or school.

Being in tune with those around us and able to predict another person’s needs come pretty naturally to us since we’ve been practicing since preschool.

Now I’m not saying that men are incapable of being nurturing. And I’m certainly not saying that they don’t enjoy being cared for. However, the mothering instinct we possess that is so second-nature and well-meaning can end up working against us at times.

Especially when it comes to our romantic relationships.

While we were encouraged to be nurturers from a young age, most men were taught to be problem-solvers, protectors, and leaders with toys like Legos, pretend tool kits, and by role-playing superheroes.

From an early age, males got the message their value in the world is based on those traits.READ MORE…

Felicity Keith dishes advice on sex, dating, and love. She is the author of The Language of Desire and The Flirty Girl's Guide to Astrological Attraction. Dubbed the “Indiana Jones of the male mind” by relationship expert, Michael Fiore, her work has influenced tens of thousands of women and she is a regular contributor at Digital Romance, Inc.